OWLS Team (unofficial?) Blog Tour: When A Family Needs to Work Together to Make It Function

Oh dear, that title sounds a bit dreadful and I even changed one of the words so that it wouldn’t sound too bad but not sure it worked…

Why hello there young people of here and there. Welcome to a possibly unofficial OWLS post. I’ve been MIA for a really long time and am not sure if this post even counts for the tour anymore. Either way I thought I’d share it with you all. Unlike my other OWLS posts, I’ve decided to make this one a bit more personal in the sense that I’m letting you all in through my family’s front door 

Which reminds me…this month for the blog tours OWLS made a topic focused on the LGBTQ+ community. During the planning stages I was ecstatic about it because I take all the excuses I can to talk about yaoi and all the yaoi goodness. But as I sat down to write I realized the term “Team” and yaoi don’t mesh

…June’s topic is “Team.” I picked the word “Team” because it functions in two ways: 1) allows individuals to show their support to the LGBT & Queer communities and 2) allows LGBT & Queer communities to express their love to whoever they want.

So for the “Team” topic, we will be discussing our favorite LGBT & Queer characters in anime and other pop culture related media, the impact of the yaoi and yuri genre within LGBT & Queer communities, our personal stories involving gender/sexual orientation, and etc.

I usually use the word of the month to tie into my OWLS posts but I couldn’t think of any yaoi anime or manga that made me think of a team. In fact, the only thing I could think about were sports anime but those aren’t exactly LGBTQ+. In fact, nearly all the posts for this month express why I couldn’t identify BL and “Team” together (OWLS Team Tour: When We Fetish Yaoi by Kat, Redefining the Rotten Fandom of the Rotten Yaoi Genre by Arria,  Yuri Anime and Manga: Validating Lesbian Relationships as Real (June OWLS Blog Tour)) and another post just regurgitating all that didn’t sound fun to me

Instead I want to tell you all about my last few days and my future weeks. Grab yourself some popcorn because it’s storytime:

My mom had surgery

It’s honestly nothing bad, she’s fine and surprisingly strong considering what happened to her. Even the nurses were surprised to see my mom walking around with little to no help and standing as straight as she was (she was still a bit hunched over but she’s walking straighter than others in her shoes)

Now you’re probably wondering how this relates to “Team”, right?

Well, my mom has always been that pillar in my family and once you take her out of the picture we’re all scrambling about. That’s what this surgery has done to my family

My mom took care of all of us, the dogs (we have 3), a stray cat, two squirrels that like to come to our backyard, and basically the house. Anything we ever needed, she was the go to. But now that she’s out of commission we’ve had to change around how we live and work at home. In a sense we’ve had to turn into a team, helping run the house but also helping her with anything she may need. Except nobody in our house has ever run a household

We have to clean up everything and it’s only now that we’re seeing what leaving one cup on the table everyday is doing. Because everyone works it’s also a bit harder to find someone who is available to help her around and take her to all her doctor’s appointments (actually just came back from one today). Just the other day my dad came by the house during the day (something he rarely ever does) to make sure he could help her up and go to the bathroom since my brother and I were both working

Lucky for us she had the surgery after classes got out because then who would take the youngest to school and pick him up? Help him do homework? Make sure he went to sleep at 9?

Our family has had to communicate more since she had the surgery and it’s kind of nice. You see, my family is very “independent” in the sense that we don’t all have a breakfast and dinner time. We don’t all talk to each other about our day or have extended family to invite over dinner like you see on TV. We all generally keep to ourselves unless it’s a Sunday. Sometimes I don’t see my dad until the next evening because I work early and by the time he comes home I’m asleep

We’ve had to make some changes in the house but even my youngest brother, who I learned yesterday doesn’t even know how to hold a broom, is contributing with this team effort

Terrible storytelling I know. There’s no plot or moral or exciting parts. There’s only a family who has had to come together as a real family to help out the pillar of our household get better. Kudos to all the stay at home moms/dads/wives/husbands because this is TOUGH. Also to people who take care of others like nurses (I had to sleep in the living room with my mom the first night, was bad because I was scared she’d hurt herself and what would ignorant little me be able to do if she did?!)

And to weakly tie it into the LGBTQ+ theme, I hope that one day this team effort and love will be expressed when needed

Like always, don’t forget to check out all the blog tour posts for the month of June (I believe there’s one more post from Stephanie Clarke over at Anime Girls NYC). Check out the official website, follow us on Twitter and Facebook, look out for our next live stream, and just be awesome!



13 thoughts on “OWLS Team (unofficial?) Blog Tour: When A Family Needs to Work Together to Make It Function

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  2. Even though you say this post is unofficial I enjoyed reading it and it’s still officiall. When you know what your going to write about the. Your mind changes. I’m glad your doing alright Crimson and hope your mum will be back 100% as well. I know exactly of what you speak of in this post, I went through the same thing many years ago when my mum had to have surgery it was more serious though. I was in my last year of school, learning to drive and all the things it was the toughest time for me family but we all had to band together somehow ^^ great post and thankyou for sharing your story with us 😊

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    • Thanks, and lol, I called it unofficial because I didn’t see anything on the Twitter page about it and the person before me didn’t tag me so I was like uhhh, I think I’m still onboard? And I’m so ready to have my mom get better, I imagine it was tough for you, learning to drive for me was super nervewracking and to have my mom bedridden as well I’d probably crash soon, be like I CANT DO THIS ANYMORE XD

      But my mom’s progressing well and I hope she can coddle me soon, taking care of her is fine since she doesn’t ask for much, just to be fed 3 times a day 😛 but GOD the housework and nobody wanting to do it is tough :’)

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  4. I just saw this now because of OWLS Twitter and the time stamp was when I was on vacation so I wouldn’t have seen it w/o that Twitter notification. This makes total sense as to why you aren’t around right now 😦 😦

    I’m trying to keep things afloat while you are away in regards to the zine, but I did send them the link to this post to give them a heads up.

    I hope all is well with your mom! ❤


  5. I’m very behind on reading everyone’s OWLS posts, but when I saw this floating by on twitter I had to see what was up. This explains so much, the absence, and how you’ve done your own sort of recovery on the home front! For that, thanks for this update. You’re an integral part of our own team here, ya know? So keep up the hard work, and I’m sending all the good health to you, your mom, and your family!


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